Conservative and Gay: Not Hypocritical, But Not Healthy Either

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Here’s your quote of the day, courtesy of the queen of the GOProud Homocons, Ann Coulter:

Marriage is not a civil right. You’re not black.

I found it odd that in Politico’s coverage of this weekend’s GOProud gather that it would suggest that Coulter’s “presence marked the increasingly mainstream Republican embrace of gay rights.” From TalkingPointsMemo’s slightly more detailed report of Coulter’s remarks, it seems to me she proved just the opposite: despite new exceptions, the right is as anti-gay rights as ever.

What is a gay conservative? The answer is pretty generalizable from my observations. A gay conservative is a rich, white man who wants credit for being gay but cares more about the money the Republican party can help him hold onto. Men who are rich and white have it pretty good in this society, which means they can be out without much backlash. I get the impression—and have heard directly from others—that even despite identifying as openly gay, they are still straight-acting closet cases who require a fair amount of lubrication to be their true gay selves.

Reinforcing the stereotype that all gay people are rich, one of Coulter’s (apparently) funniest lines of the night was:

Blacks must be looking at the gays saying, ‘Why can’t we be oppressed like that?

While it might be a thing of the past, I don’t know that there was ever quite the phenomenon of black people being convinced to oppress themselves.

These Homocons are a danger to themselves, though they’d surely assert the opposite. They are applauding as someone stands in front of them and calls them “less than.” That is not healthy. Just read this post from a conservative with same-sex attractions. This poor guy has been convinced that acknowledging he is gay means that he’s going to magically turn in to Jack McFarland and lose his whole identity. He sees his SSA as a “challenge in my life that I have to deal with.” He’s been fed archaic notions about males being complementary to females, as if that idea had some important significance (of course, the Catholic Church thinks so). I think SooperTrev is right about one thing: he’s not hypocritical. He can have traditional views on homosexuality. A lot of them are wrong, ignoring decades of psychological research about the phenomenon of sexual orientation, but that’s besides the point. He is clearly causing himself more pain.

Cognitive dissonance is not something we should applaud. If these Homocons think they’re doing the gay rights movement a favor, then they have some very mixed up ideas going on in their head that give me concern for their mental health. My hunch, though, is that they think they’re doing the Republican Party a favor by offering them a supportive representative authority from the gay community, which simply makes them self-serving Quislings.

At the end of the day, gay conservatives care more about their money than about their identity. They have enough money that they don’t face the challenges of being gay. Rather than ever having to wrestle with those challenges, they are intent to continue accumulating the money necessary to maintain their standard of living. In doing so, they remind us that coming out is still very difficult in our society and that we have a long way to go when it comes to educating and achieving respect from society. I can’t help but see them as slaves who think that if they can just save up enough money, they can buy their freedom. They fail to see that freedom from oppression has never been up for sale.

If anything, they deserve our pity. Unfortunately, they’ll be hard-pressed to find it as we angrily work to undo the damage they do to our community in their desperate search for acceptance through greed.

If you’re curious about what LGBT people lose by support social conservatives, the Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund has a new video up today to remind you:

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There are 14 Comments to "Conservative and Gay: Not Hypocritical, But Not Healthy Either"

  • Buffy says:

    What is a gay conservative?

    Someone who will spend as much time telling you why you don’t deserve equal rights as much as any other conservative.

    …the right is as anti-gay rights as ever.

    Of course they are. Now they just have glitzy events where self-loathing gays allow high-profile bigots to spew hate directly at them, and call it “entertainment”.

  • RS says:

    A gay conservative is a rich, white man who wants credit for being gay but cares more about the money the Republican party can help him hold onto.

    I’m curious. Based on what observations do you base that assumption and your conclusion that

    They have enough money that they don’t face the challenges of being gay. Rather than ever having to wrestle with those challenges, they are intent to continue accumulating the money necessary to maintain their standard of living.

    • RS says:

      Who’s “they”? I don’t have any money. And what of Tim Gill who has a ton of it? And what exactly are the “challenges of being gay” and how does having money insulate you from it?

      • ZackFord says:

        I was referring to GOProud supporters and the way individuals can (or at least try to) use socioeconomic privilege to fill the void of heterosexual privilege.

      • RS says:

        Further, how much money do “they” have and how much money does it take so you don’t have to face the “challenges” of being gay?

        • ZackFord says:

          I don’t think it works that way, but there definitely seems to be a contingent set on finding out or at least believing that it’s working for them.

          • RS says:

            I took Sociology in college and got an A. That’s not Sociology. That’s a list of excuses for maintaining perpetual victimhood by some pissed off queen.

          • ZackFord says:

            And that’s a decision to ignore social science. I mean, you either understand the concept of privilege or you don’t. You don’t, and that’s okay, and you choose to ignore that it means anything, and that’s okay too. Now your comments are getting offensive, and that’s not okay.

          • RS says:

            I could say that your entire post and comments are deeply offensive and stems from your hatred and bigotry. However, I don’t get offended because mature adults recognize that if one finds something offensive, they’re the ones with the problem. But it does take gall to write this crap and then whine that someone with a differing opinion is “offensive and that’s not ok”.

          • ZackFord says:

            Ah, but see, I had no problem with you disagreeing. You made some reasonable points so I engaged with you in dialogue. Then I offered information that you didn’t like, so you dismissed it as being “excuses…by some pissed off queen,” when in fact it is a staple of the study of social justice and identity development. If you are unopen to considering new information, then there is little point for dialogue to continue.

  • ZackFord says:

    Pretty much all footage I’ve ever seen of any gay conservative gathering? There are a handful of women and 1 or 2 people of color, but that’s it.

    Now, I’ll distinguish GOProud from LCR here. I’m really proud of LCR’s successful claim against DADT. That’s a group that’s actually willing to work towards gay rights. But GOProud? Looks to me more like a refugee camp, particularly when you hear the one video diary from an attendee who was just so excited to be around others.

    http://joemygod.blogspot.com/2010/09/homocon-2010-attendee-tells-his-story.html
    http://joemygod.blogspot.com/2010/09/porn-producer-michael-lucas-tangled.html

  • twitterholic says:

    While we’re on the topic of what’s not gay or gay, check out this video I saw on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Efbcvfe1GQ which pokes fun at gay stereoptypes in the media.

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